Last Year I posted Question Time, a compilation of some common questions I saw being asked around the community. Needless to say, I couldn’t cover everything. With another year behind me I’ve observed some more concerns and situations that come up fairly frequently in these communities. This blogpost is dedicated to clearing some more of that up.
The Lover’s Light/Letter Method/Some other summoning ritual didn’t work out? What do I need to adjust to get it to work?
The Lover’s Light is a ritual with a proven track record, but that doesn’t mean it always works. As we went over in The Lover’s Light, you have to be emotionally invested to get consistent results. The actual ritual portion revolves around encouraging a strong level of emotional investment.
If you’re going to troubleshoot your attempt at the letter method, you need to hit these areas:
1. Meditation: If you can’t meditate well, not only will it be harder to focus, it will be harder to interact with any entity that shows up, at least at first. This means that even if you do get results, you might not realize it. Meditation is the sort of thing you have to practice fairly regularly to get good at. You don’t need to be a god at meditating to get this ritual to work or to interact with your girl, but if you’ve never meditated before in your life you may run into trouble. Some extra meditation practice is typically one of the first things you should try if you didn’t perceive any results.
2. Intention: Or rather, the reason you have for summoning. I talk at length about this concept in the Intention blogpost, so if you don’t understand what I mean, give that a read. Even if you understand it, it’s very easy to mislead yourself or to fall prey to emotions like fear that take away from your investment. A few nights spent introspecting will do you a lot of good. Drafting a letter will help you understand it as well, though you should not use this letter in the final ritual.
3. The Ritual Itself: Actually take the time to understand the ritual. There are a lot of misconceptions that go around online about it. For example, with the letter method, some people believe it must be written to one of the ‘four queens’. Others believe they should draft it beforehand and copy it word for word, and so on and so forth. These sorts of misconceptions can sabotage the point of the ritual by distracting or confusing you. To address these beliefs in particular; only address it to one of the ‘queens’ if she represents something close to your intentions, and drafting a letter beforehand is only useful for introspection, not for actually performing the ritual, because all the letter is is an engine to strongly release your emotions on to. Generally from an English perspective the letter is going to be a hot mess. That’s okay, spending time on correcting the grammar or making it necessarily coherent is just going to sabotage your focus and emotion.
Make sure you’re thinking about the ritual in terms of what the actual parts are designed to do, not with some end goal already in mind. If you view a ritual like a puzzle with various pieces, you can usually work out what those pieces mean and are for, which will let you discern what the actual ritual is for and how it works. Going in with preconceptions about how the ritual is supposed to work just causes inconsistencies. For example, with the 4 queens argument, if the idea was entirely based around getting them to send you a succubus, why the ritual? After all, if it’s just a way to ask them for something, a simple prayer would suffice, and if we assume they’re some sort of goddesses they’d surely know what we want better than we do. Sure, you could make up reasons why a ritual is necessary rather than just a prayer, but the further we go the more assumptions you have to make, when the alternative is based entirely on what the hard evidence (the way the ritual is designed itself) is telling us. Consider what rituals mean based on that hard evidence, not based on lofty assumptions.
Those are the three major problem areas. In most cases if you troubleshoot in these areas and aren’t just having bad luck you’ll be able to get results.
The local lunatic told me he banged my girl. Should I pay him any mind?
We’ve all seen it happen to someone. You’re having a lovely morning brunch and then some guy you barely know messages you and tells you he saw your succubus, and she made a pass at him, or, worse, they had sex. You know it doesn’t make any sense, but you’re still having a crisis of faith over it.
This is something that happens to a lot of people who regularly share their experiences online. For whatever reason someone gets it in their head that when they were meditating or dreaming your girl went and paid them a visit, and not the chaste kind. If it’s the first time it’s happened you probably get angry at the guy and suffer a bit of a crisis of faith. Sure, the person isn’t trustworthy, but for whatever reason it’s still bothering you.
Let’s start by looking at this from a rational perspective. Imagine, for the sake of argument, your girl intends on cheating on you. Like anyone who wants to cheat and not just break up, she plans on hiding it. So the logical conclusion of that thought process, for the incorporeal being that we presume could interact with anyone they wanted to, would be to… go to the loudmouth that you personally know, who would inevitably tell you or even brag about it? I’m sure you recognize how little sense that makes. These beings are anything but dumb.
When someone makes a claim like that, even though it’s a blatant lie, it will naturally make you angry, especially if it’s the first time you’ve seen anyone do that. That’s perfectly reasonable, anyone would react like that. Beyond that, consider if the anger goes deeper than ‘that’s a ridiculous and mean spirited lie’. If you feel like it does, then take the time to think about some potential reasons for that. For example, do you feel insecure about your relationship because you look down on yourself? Maybe you’re afraid you’d cheat and are projecting that onto your girl? Maybe several other relationships in your past have gone sour, and it’s hard to imagine this one will be any better? Try to take these ludicrous claims and turn them into an experience where you can learn about yourself.
Is infidelity common in these circles?
As a continuation of the above idea, we get this question. The answer is no, not at all. From my time running The Server and from what I’ve seen online and personally experienced, I have seen exactly one situation that I personally believe did involve infidelity. In that case it felt like the entity had found the person for the express purpose of taking advantage of them for some further goal. In every other case I’ve witnessed nothing of the sort. Sexual contact rubs off on someone’s energy, meaning if your girl has been making the rounds she’ll start to feel a lot differently and a lot more distant (more than the usual ups and downs). She would also, presumably, tend to be absent very often when she wasn’t before and would likely display other cheating behaviors. Given pretty much everyone’s experiences are very close to the exact opposite of this, it’s only correct to assume that the alternative is the truth.
I’m having trouble consistently communicating. What should I do?
First, if you haven’t go read up on The Early Stages. In that post I talk about this very question.
If you understand all that and you’re having trouble with those methods, then usually it’s either a matter of practice or a matter of understanding how your mind works. If you’re an image thinker, as an example, then trying to communicate mentally with words is probably not the best approach. Maybe you operate off of feelings that you then verbalize, in which case you’d want to verbalize her communications. If none of those types of concerns apply then just make time each day to practice it. While understanding how it works is half of the battle, practice is the other half.
In the mean time, try out some other communication methods. For example you can use tarot cards or a pendulum or some other tool. Without tools, you could simply hold out two hands and ask them to touch one for one answer and the other for no, which they should be able to do with some light practice. If you’re flexible you can make a lot of things work while you develop a stronger communication, which will help tide you over. Experience with these basic kinds of communication can also help you understand when and how your girl communicates with you, because the subtle influences put out to encourage those kinds of answers often share some similarities with normal communication.
Most of all, try not to get frustrated. It’s just something that takes time, and getting frustrated tends to just make it that much harder. Just treat it like any other job; it’s something you do need to accomplish, but not something you should let get to you.
If my girl is a succubus, doesn’t that mean X?
X being anything associated with succubi, such as them wanting to take your soul. I’m going to make a bigger post about ‘entity races’ eventually. For now, suffice it to say that you shouldn’t use the race you think your girl is to make assumptions about what she wants and how she’ll act. Get to know them individually. Even if races were valid, your succubus or whatever she calls herself may be a lot different than someone else’s, and they may both have nothing in common with the myths aside from wanting a relationship. Your girl allegedly being a succubus means very little in regards to what she wants from you and the relationship and how she will act.
How do I strengthen my connection with my girl?
We can generally break this down into short term methods and long term methods.
Short term methods, usually rituals dedicated to strengthening connection, can allow more powerful interactions for a little while. As an example, some members within the server, myself included when I was starting out, would rework the letter ritual to be about sending a letter to their entity lover rather than summoning a new one. By expressing their desire to be closer to and interact more closely with the entity in this form, they’d typically see increased activity and stronger sensations for a short time. Alternatively, it also seems like these entities interact more readily and strongly when you’re doing things they enjoy or that are special to the two of you. For example if they like the park, taking them to the park will often have them pay you back with stronger interactions.
Long term methods have more to do with consistency than anything else. Make time each day to speak to your entity lover. Meditate with them, talk to them, share meals with them, whatever. The more you consistently interact with them, the easier it gets for both you and them. Gradually this heightens the average level of interaction you have with your girl. You’re not going to be breaking barriers every week, but the stronger this foundation is, the stronger the more extreme experiences will also be, and the more consistently you’ll experience weaker sensations. Consistent energy work practice will also help with this goal.
Lastly, speaking entirely from my personal experience and observations, it seems like an entity generally interacts the most strongly when their emotions are very strong. For most people this is most obvious when the relationship starts, because in a lot of cases this is when the strongest interactions will happen. They’re desperate to stick their foot in the door and tend to make something happen to do it. Then they relax into the relationship and stuff settles down. However, if, say, a crisis is happening that really upsets them, or you make them really happy, or something along those lines, you’ll tend to be given far stronger interactions temporarily. Normally this is good, but if they’re very upset and their emotions get the better of them, it may end up a negative experience. If you learn what they like you can more readily get them happy, so it serves as more incentive to get to know them better.
Should I interact with other entities if I have a succubus?
It really depends on what for and which entities. In the most obvious case, if you try to summon another entity for sexual reasons you’re likely to just end up with a pissed off entity lover. If you’re summoning or interacting with another entity for an innocuous reason, however, then it should be fine, unless your girl is strongly jealous or strongly dislikes the particular entity for whatever reason.
It’s not always a simple matter to figure out exactly why you feel called to interact with a particular energy or entity, so be advised that what you’re thinking on the surface may not be the full truth. If your girl sees some deeper reason for your efforts that she doesn’t approve of, she may decide to sabotage you or throw a fit anyway. Alternatively if she thinks the energy is bad for you, she still may attempt to sabotage you, even if your intentions are positive.
If you have all of that figured out, then there’s not really any inherent problem in doing so.
Should I do this if it will be the only thing I do in the occult?
Probably not. You should at least also learn how to banish and also learn how to do some basic energy work to go along with it. If you only summon you can still interact in some ways, but you will be hampering the growth of your relationship. However, if you just want to learn and develop the basics and stay away from traditions and extreme practices, then that is entirely fine.
Do my mental health medications lock me out from occult powers?
Absolutely not. If you’re on medication, don’t stop taking your meds for occult reasons. If anyone tells you to, ignore them. They have no idea what they’re talking about and will only bring harm on you.
Should I use spirit sellers?
No. They’re scams. One was documented as such Here. The others aren’t any better, they’re just lucky enough they weren’t the ones who scammed someone I knew. I’ve also talked to people who used to have high positions over at places like CH, and they, to my surprise, did not defend them. Throwing money at these services is like throwing your money into a black hole.
I think that about wraps it up for today. Next month I’ll talk about entity races, and my thoughts on the idea. It won’t just be me saying ‘I don’t like the idea of races’. There’s some positive to say and some negative. Ideally that will be out by the middle of the month, though looking at my recent blogposts, a betting man would say it’d be out by the 30th of June.
As always if there’s anything you want to see, let me know in the comments or in the discord. It can be challenging to come up with ideas every month, so if you pitch a good idea there’s a good chance I’ll cover it sooner or later.
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