The biggest chain around the leg of the spirit lover community is The Letter Method. While it is an effective ritual when used properly, it is often awkward and uncomfortable. It’s a direct turn off for many people who would otherwise be interested in summoning a spirit lover, and the way it’s designed actually makes it more dangerous than some other rituals. The fact it is a form of sex magic also paints the community in a specific, often perverted, light.
Because of all of these reasons and for the sake of variety, I’ve prepared a new ritual meant to accomplish the same purpose. I call this ritual The Lover’s Light, as it allows one to act as a focused beacon for attracting a Spirit Lover, without any of the mess. It was designed to be cheap and accessible, just like the Letter Method, to make sure it is relevant to newer practitioners. It utilizes a simple setup with tarot cards, though the ritual could be performed with nothing at all if you’re relatively well practiced. This is one of the rituals included in my upcoming book on Spirit Lovers, which I have recently finished the first draft of.
Without further ado, let’s dive in. I’ll break up the ritual just like I broke up The Letter Method, and then analyze it afterwards. I will also be comparing it to The Letter Method directly, so that I can discuss why I believe it is a superior and safer alternative.
Preparation
The main tool that we’ll be using for the ritual are tarot cards, though the ritual can be performed with no tools at all if you’re able to focus on an idea with no help at a high level. Other kinds of cards, like Oracle cards, can be used instead of tarot cards. One could also substitute a sigil or sigils for the chosen tarot cards as well, which may be an attractive prospect if you have some experience with sigil creation. Aside from this, an object should be used to represent the idea of a relationship, similar to the string in the Separation Ritual. A tarot card or cards can also be used for this purpose (most likely something like The Lovers or The Two of Cups to represent romantic relationships, potentially combined with a card like The Ace of Wands or The Fool that represents creation or new ventures). One could also use a sigil for this purpose, a string like in that other ritual, a statue of an archetype that represents love or relationships, or any manner of related ideas. You must have a decent understanding of what the cards mean, at least at a traditional level (meaning that, yes, you can just look them up). There is one more important tool that carries over from The Letter Method, an explanation of which I’ve copied from that blogpost.
The most important part of the preparation for this ritual is introspection. You have to understand why you’re summoning to pick out the right intention and emotions. Do you honestly just want to summon an entity for sex? Do you want a long term romantic relationship? These force you to focus on different ideas. Tools for introspection, like a journal, are useful for this consideration. You must make sure that what you decide upon is what you really want; professing an intent you don’t really want will either ruin the effect of the ritual due to that conflict, or summon an entity that is looking for something you truly don’t want, which can have negative consequences. It’s important you get this part in particular right; whatever you decide upon will be the emotional focus of the ritual.
Other non-necessary tools include a candle, for the purpose of meditation and mood setting, a small table, to allow you to more easily perform the ritual at places that aren’t the floor or kitchen table, and a representation of an archetype, such as a sigil or statue of a love goddess. Tarot cards are themselves archetypal, so choosing a Deific idea to work with is less meaningful than it might be in The Letter Method. Other additions could also be added, like a certain set of music to either help you relax and meditate, or to inflame your passions, or smells for the same reasoning.
Performance
Step 0: Yes, Zero. This step will be performed in advance of the ritual. Step 0 is card selection (or sigil creation if you’re using sigils instead; I won’t be explaining this process). There will be two different groups of cards, usually 3-5 per group, plus a third group of 1-2 if using cards to represent the idea of a relationship. The first group of these will be placed around yourself, and will represent what you bring to the table. Consider what you want to give to a Spirit Lover in a relationship. This can be something mundane like sex or your time, and can also be something more immaterial, like help with growth and their goals. These cards will also represent the good aspects of your personality, that make you an attractive choice for a spirit lover or a relationship in general. These aren’t payment, they are a list of qualities that you think define you as a person that is worth being with. You should naturally steer away from negativity in this selection. If you have self esteem issues and feel that you don’t bring much to the table, and you can’t get past this hang up (even though it is not true), then focus on selecting ideas relating to actions you can perform for your spirit lover, rather than traits and qualities.
The second group represent what you desire from a spirit lover. This can be anything, and you should be brutally honest about how you feel. If sex is an important reason for your summoning, then even if you think it’s base or unworthy, it should be used. No desire or idea is necessarily wrong, unless it involves you wanting to hurt the spirit for some reason. This is where the introspection you’ve done will come in handy. Selecting the right ideas is very important, because they will be the main focus of the ritual.
The third optional group is the easiest, and should generally be one of the cards we listed before. They can be combined with cards that represent change or new ventures if you desire, as we are creating the relationship.
Step 1: After performing any preparatory ritualism (i.e. the LRP/LBRP, a relaxation ritual which could be something simple like a bath, just some preemptive meditation, etc.), we will begin by laying out the cards. The first set should be laid around your person. There is no particular ordering for this, though if you like you can place more active ideas more towards the front of the group. The cards can either literally be used to surround you or placed in front of you in a group. The second group is then placed. While the ordering isn’t necessarily that important, one could place them in the shape of a triangle, potentially with the strongest idea in the center of the triangle (or even a card or item that represents the idea of a spirit lover itself, if you want to add more to the ritual). Otherwise, a circular formation or, if you lack space, just a simple spread is sufficient. The item, be it another card or otherwise, that represents the relationship should then be placed, between the two sets of cards. This is the actual object of the ritual, the creation of a relationship.
Step 2: At this point, we begin the preparation of the ‘beacon’, or the lightening of oneself. We do this by first meditating until we reach a point of relative calm and empty-mindedness. Perfection is not required, but the requirements are somewhat higher than the letter method. If you’re using a small table that can be placed in your lap to hold the cards, you could actually handle this meditation while lying down, which is much easier for a lot of people including myself. If you’re using a lit candle, the candlelight can be used as a focusing point for this part of the ritual. The goal is to reach a cool temperament and a calm state of mind, so that we are not incensed in one direction or another at this early stage. Allow your mind to relax and become malleable.
Step 3: Now, we turn our mind to our desires and thus the cards we selected for the Spirit Lover. The goal is to use these desires to inflame our mind and our emotions, effectively ‘lighting the beacon’. We start slowly, focusing on one desire at a time, and swapping to another one as it loses its efficacy. When we have gone through each desire, we should repeat with the earliest one, having given it time to regain its strength. If a new relevant desire enters your mind, allow yourself to take advantage of it too, and work it into the cycle.
What we are focusing on here isn’t actually the idea of the desire itself, but how we will feel when the desire is met by the Spirit Lover. Focusing on the desire in a logical way isn’t going to inflame your passions. Instead, we focus on that feeling, either by visualizing ourselves experiencing it, or by calling to mind how we imagine it will make us feel in the moment. Be it joy, sexual satisfaction, pride, excitement, whatever, let these feelings inflame your mind in the direction of a spirit lover. Continue cycling these desires until you feel yourself reach a fever pitch of emotion.
Step 4: When you reach an emotional fever pitch (however high you can go), call for your spirit lover with gusto. It is best if this is done audibly, with you literally shouting out for her to come to you. If that is not something you feel you can do without making someone nearby question your sanity, then you can remain quiet and cry out mentally. With this call, we release the firestorm of our emotions and desire outward, doing the spiritual equivalent of shooting a flare up into the sky to attract our spirit lover to us. When you finish the call, you should make a judgment. If you still feel like you have a level of emotional energy that you can call upon, recycle back to step 2, and begin building up to shouting again. If you feel you’ve exhausted yourself, then end the ritual there. If your spirit lover arrives at any point, you may immediately bring the ritual to an end.
Analysis
In many ways, this ritual calls upon similar ideas to the Letter Method. The bulk of the work is in the emotional ‘cooking’ that you have to do. Theoretically you could do the ritual with no tools at all, not even the tarot cards, though I believe them to be quite useful physical analogues to the archetypes relating to the desires you’ll be working with.
The ritual mirrors the idea of sex at a higher level in its emotional rise and fall, without actually requiring sexual stimulation. You begin relaxed and slowly reach a boiling point, focusing on your desires. When this boiling point is reached, you release the emotion and energy into an explosion outwards (I like the flare analogy in particular), before returning to a more relaxed state. Depending on the boiling point you reached and the level of expenditure, you can then repeat the cycle as much as you need to. This option for repetition is an incredibly strong advantage, as it means that you never waste any of that emotional energy. In comparison, due to its reliance on a sexual climax, the Letter Method can only attempt one cycle at a time, before your body releases a load of hormones meant to relax you.
This ritual also takes less preparation and cuts better to the center of the issue for most people. You only need to own a tarot deck, which is a little more expensive than paper and a bowl, but once you own it and understand it at a reasonable level, it’s very easy to use it here. Picking up tarot cards now is useful anyway, due to the other things you can do with them. The fact that it focuses entirely on the emotional process means that it fits most desires better than the Letter Method, which can feel awkward or unrelated due to its reliance on sex. Some readers will not associate sex with what they desire in a mate as strongly as others, and so this method always lines up more accurately with everyone’s individual desires than The Letter Method.
Honestly, the biggest failure of The Letter Method is its reliance on a sexual climax. Aside from being awkward, it increases the possibility of getting a negative or no result from the ritual. This is because it’s easy to have a conflux of emotion with The Letter Method, because it requires less focus by the user. Furthermore, energy is released outward through the use of sexual climax, meaning that if your thoughts are on a negative idea at the time, or your emotional focus is otherwise lacking, you’ll literally blow your load to no avail. The awkwardness of the process also tends to detract from the result. The only upside is that sexual climax naturally causes an emotional high, which makes it friendly to people that can’t focus easily at all.
In comparison, this ritual requires you to focus on specific feelings and desires, which are represented directly by the tarot cards that are used as focusing points for the emotional build up. If your emotion turns elsewhere, you simply allow that thought to pass and continue pumping yourself up emotionally. In the worst case, you just stop. It’s also not awkward, literally being performable while lying down completely still.
Also, just for the record, the blood based version of the letter method is highly inferior to both the version of The Letter Method you tend to see me offer, and The Lover’s Light. It has no advantage over either version, only carrying a disadvantage in the form of forced bloodletting, and doesn’t carry any of the qualities that make the other two effective. This doesn’t mean it can’t work, any of them can work, it’s just that it is less effective for the purpose than the other two.
Going forward, The Lover’s Light will be the ritual I recommend to anyone that desires to summon a Spirit Lover. While I might be biased given I created it, I find that it’s hard not to see this ritual as objectively superior to the messy letter method in several different avenues. If you’re new to the community and are looking to summon your own spirit lover, give this ritual a try or two. It’ll certainly require less cleanup. It should also be a much better fit for women for… Obvious reasons.
Merry Christmas! I scheduled this post to go up on Christmas, though I do not know exactly what time it will go up. Like I said at the start, I finished the first draft of my book! There may be some stuff that I decide I want to add later, or parts to flesh out, and there are of course many rounds of editing that must be done before I even think about publishing it. The final first draft has clocked in right at 84k words. I had never written a book before, so the process was slower than I would have liked. I think given this experience, if I try to write more books in the future, I’ll have a much faster turnaround time.
You should consider this post your Christmas Gift from me. Spreading a little love for Christmas certainly seemed like a good goal. It will also probably replace the post for January, unless I think of something I really want to cover during that month. This is my second post for December, so that seems fair to me.
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