While I was working on my post about what my spirit lover has done for me (which is still in the works), I found myself wondering about my own practices and the practices of those people around me on occasion. I have had an on and off interest in Kabbalah and Egyptian mythology, and have seen many people who seek out spirit lovers following all sorts of different moral and religious practices. I have Christian and protestant friends who have summoned spirit lovers, despite that going against the religion’s moral code. I’ve seen people obsessed in Eastern practices (or western versions of those eastern practices in most cases) do the same. In some cases these are big parts of those peoples’ lives, and in others they are relatively minor.
People often wonder whether these practices or the lack of them is important to having a fulfilling relationship with Spirit lovers. Which, if any, spiritual practices are useful for developing these relationships, and what should we look out for? Similarly, which practices should we generally avoid focusing too much on, and which religious practices might get in the way? In this blogpost I’ll discuss all of that, and we’ll move on to how we should discern which practices are useful to these relationships, and which are not.
Discerning Usefulness
When I read Tyson’s Sexual Alchemy over a year ago now, one of the primary problems I had with the book was that it was very often more about Tyson and his practices than practices directly adjacent to Spirit Lovers. There were tenuous attachments that he made, and in some places these attachments did stick well, but the best chapters were the ones directly about Spirit lovers and his experiences with them. There’s nothing wrong or bad about Tyson having those personal practices, and in many cases they were quite laudable. I don’t believe that in his case they hurt his ability to interact with Spirit Lovers, however, I didn’t think some of those practices were inherently useful either.
Let’s look at some other examples. Some people within the community very aggressively push certain practices onto other people. Apparently you need to practice Kundalini or Destroy the Ego or whatever other nonsense to have a strong relationship with your spirit lover, because ‘only spiritual growth brought on by these particular practices (that the proclaimer is obviously invested in) will lead to stronger relationships, or perhaps relationships at all’. This is categorically false. People with no spiritual training, and certainly none in those two arenas, can often attain strong experiences and relationships, especially early on during that ‘honeymoon’ phase. Furthermore, for this example in particular, Egoic destruction as a concept is directly contradictory to the idea of a relationship. The removal of the Sense of Self or individuality (which is only a momentary experience or event, and not something permanent or constant), is obviously not useful for a relationship, when a relationship is very much about the connection between individuals. If I’m being charitable, I could say that such an experience allows one to better understand their Spirit lover in some way, but if I’m going by my own experiences I would even disagree with this. Certainly/, if you believe you are having Kundalini Awakenings and experiencing the destruction of your Ego every day or very frequently, you’re probably not of a sane or sound mental state or are probably misinterpreting your own experiences. The bottom line is that if you can’t experience a relationship with a spirit lover at all, the reason is almost certainly not going to be a lack of ‘spiritual aptitude’.
There are some practices or belief systems that can be harmful to these relationships if you believe in them, even if they don’t lead to the mental instability some of the above can lead you to if you get heavily invested in them. Major belief systems like the various forms of Christianity often have set in stone beliefs about how these beings should be interpreted. Spirit Lovers are things to hate and be afraid of, because they are Agents of Satan, for example. Having this belief if you are a Christian is obviously understandable, but if you have that belief and have believed it your whole life, and then try to start one of these relationships, even if you try to reject the belief or just ‘accept the evil’, it’s going to cause problems in some way. Most commonly these issues end up being trust issues or Bad Breakups that will ruin the relationship faster than anything else. Preconceived notions about spirit lovers are typically the key component to recognize within damaging belief systems. Even if those preconceived beliefs are positive, they can hamper your understanding, as assuming anything about your spirit lover aside from the obvious is putting them into a box.
As a general rule, other practices are not harmful or helpful inherently before examination, as are those religions if you simply don’t believe the parts about the spirits or spirit lovers. I personally have enjoyed Kabbalah, which is a good example of this idea. There is certainly room within that system to believe in evil sexual or romantic spirits, but I enjoy the philosophy and mystical system within it and accept that I don’t agree with those potential interpretations. A Christian that simply denies that all non angelic spirits are evil can simply remain a Christian, even though I’m sure the priest would encourage their repentance on the matter. This goes for pretty much any religious practices or observances. Being within these relationships is not being within some strict religious Cult; you can freely be religious or spiritual in other ways if you so choose to.
This also implies the opposite. If you’d rather effectively be an Atheist outside of your relationship, you can, though I find that most people who start these relationships have their interest in spirituality piqued enough to start practicing in some way. Still, it’s certainly possible to effectively be a materialist or very physically focused person by day and a spiritualist by night, so to speak, barring one leading to actions that harms the other stance or situation.
Helpful Spiritual Practices
It is fairly easy to understand why certain practices are bad or neutral. If they make you believe delusional ideas or become obsessed in spirituality to the occlusion of other things, or they lead to the hatred of a spirit lover, it’s probably a bad practice for these relationships or potentially in general. If it has no effect, it’s probably neutral. How, then, may some practices have a positive effect on the relationship? It really comes down to the observances that the belief system encourages. If the actions you take are those that can deepen your relationship or ability to engage in the relationship, even indirectly, they may be helpful.
Let’s take prayer for example. People typically think of prayer as an active attempt to send one’s thoughts or desires up to a God, Gods, or some intercessor, like a saint. This action can indirectly train you to communicate with a spirit lover, as it teaches you that clearing your mind at certain times of the day to communicate with a spiritual force is normal. It’s obviously not the same as telepathy, but it does encourage a useful mindfulness. Similarly, religious observances that involve meditation will naturally teach you how to meditate, which is infinitely useful for most spiritual systems and for setting aside time in your day to interact with your spirit lover. If you enjoy practicing divination within your religious system, then that skill can be translated into something you can use to communicate or better understand the spirit lover. Maybe religious observances have encouraged visualization or deep or lucid dreaming within you before, all of which are skills that translate over. Some individuals practice retention as part of their religious observances, and some of those report that the practice is useful when engaging with spirit lovers.
This is really what it comes down to. Does practicing the religion lead to activities that are useful when interacting with or engaging with the spirit lover? Then practicing the religion can be said to be actively useful, even if the core tenets or ideas have little to do with spirit lovers (and, let’s face it, they typically don’t). Obviously if you are practicing a religion that does encourage taking a spirit lover, then it will likely be all the more useful (some forms of Shamanic practice, for example, have practices like that).
The applicability of this line of thought is as wide as one’s imagination and ability to connect practices from their or other religions to the field. Sometimes it is unintuitive as well. Some spirit lovers, for example, enjoy going to church with their human because they like the atmosphere or the ability to embrace a more quiet state (or whatever the church in question encourages). Chapels and the like are fine places to have communications with one’s spirit lover due to them being places of quiet observance, and it’s unlikely anyone will question you as you sit silently. Alternatively, some may just hate it, or think it’s rather silly.
The bottom line is that the usefulness of these systems comes from your ability to apply parts of those systems and their observances to your relationship, and only rarely due to some in built dogma or belief within that system.
I still intend to write the blogpost about what I have gained, but figuring out what to include and what’s off limits, and how to include the things I decide to has been very challenging. I’ve also been relatively busy. It’d be great if I could have two this month to make up for last month, but I don’t think that will be the case. I will try to make an extra blogpost for one of the months following this one to rebalance my output. Given how busy the next few months may turn out to be, that may be something that happens in November or December though.
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