So, you’ve sat down, LARPed for an hour, and are convinced you’ve attracted a spirit lover. You were looking for more than a one night experience and have decided you want to develop a relationship with this entity.
So what do you actually do now?
Most successful summoning attempts end up leading to failed relationships because the summoner doesn’t actually know what to do afterwards and loses interest in the entity that’s come to him. He expects her to do all the work. It’s a very easy trap to fall in to, especially if the summoner hasn’t been in a proper relationship before. He summoned her after all, why should he have to do more?
The summoning can sometimes be likened to a good first date. Sparks may fly, maybe something incredible happens. It’s fairly common that the summoner will get a bigger experience then, as the entity makes herself known, and then a whole lot of nothing. Like any proper relationship, once the wow factor disappears and interesting things stop happening, the summoner may wonder if it’s over. How do we keep things going and develop the ability to more strongly interact and communicate with our spirit lover? This post is meant to answer these common questions about the early stages, and help the summoner get up to the point at which they can have a consistent interaction with their lover whenever they choose.
I Hope You can Sit Still
You knew it was coming. The featured image implied it was coming. You’re going to have to meditate. Surprised? I bet not. Everyone will tell you this. They normally stop there, which isn’t all that helpful if you don’t know the first thing about meditation. So let’s talk about the basics.
There are tons of kinds of meditation, each geared towards a variety of things. Some are entirely about sitting, or laying down, or walking in silence; some have you recite mantras, others have you cultivate emotions strongly, and so on. The goal of most meditation is to inspire an inner peace, a mental quiet, equanimity, and potentially a trance. For the most part at the early stages we’re concerned with the first and second of these. A wild mind can not hope to feel their lover early on without a great effort from the entity.
Generally speaking it’s best to do these meditations lying down. Learning how to sit properly is a bit of a demanding task at first, and unless you can’t keep your eyes open when laying down it should be a lot easier to relax and quiet your mind when lying down. It will also usually take a few sessions to get anywhere at all as your mind adjusts to the idea. What we’re aiming for isn’t an entirely empty mind, though it wouldn’t hurt.
The first temptation you’ll have when meditating is the desire to actively try and clear your mind. This is bad and won’t work. Actively fighting your thoughts tends to whip your brain to attention and drive it crazy, as you’re bringing forth your fury and emotion to fight against yourself. It’s also extremely discouraging when you try to not think and can’t. You have to treat your thoughts more like a flowing river. When one comes through, recognize it, and let it pass. The same goes for any sensations, like an itch; simply notice its existence and let it pass.
Why is this the state we want to be in? Besides generally being useful in all meditations, early entity interactions mainly revolves around them inspiring mild sensations in you. They will often use light touch-like feelings on your hands, feet, the face, and the penis to signify their presence and get your attention, as well as to communicate at this stage. These areas are highly receptive to touch which is why they are the most commonly chosen, though they will touch other areas too, especially as you get closer to them and it becomes easier to interact. When you reach this state open up your mind and simply think that you want her to touch you. She will know. If you try this a few times and don’t get anything, think of a more complex image of being touched along with the basic thought, as they may have an issue understanding early, and meditate a little longer to ensure you’re in the right state.
A common thing to do once you’ve gotten this down is to hold out your hand and ask her to touch you there. She may touch elsewhere especially at first. This can either be her teasing you or simply misunderstanding, so make sure to clarify with a few more attempts. If she’s having an issue giving her the specific image like in the above paragraph may be useful. The goal is to get her to touch your hand relatively quickly after asking whenever you ask. You can try other body parts as well, and use this to set up a sort of rudimentary communication; once she understands the difference, you can ask her to touch one hand for yes and the other for no for example.
This may sound very similar to training a pet. It can be, but dogs usually make it easier on you. At the very least she won’t need to be housebroken. Jokes aside, the touches are an important first step for establishing communication, and are quite nice for reassuring yourself that you aren’t a raving lunatic. As hinted at, the closer you get the less you need to dedicate to this, until they can touch you easily basically whenever they want to.
Voices in Your Head
The main goal of the early stages of the relationship, aside from confirming she’s there and becoming receptive to her, is developing telepathy. So let’s get the following out of the way first.
Telepathy is not the same as hearing voices in your head. Not even close.
There is a common misconception for anyone getting into spirit-work that telepathy is the same as an entity speaking in your head or speaking out loud. This is nonsense. Entities do not have mouths, nor vocal cords, nor lungs. They don’t speak a language like we do because they have no means to do so. If you ever hear a seeming voice that you think comes from them, it is not telepathy. You’re either crazy or it’s a short moment of clairaudience, where they are projecting to you in a way that allows you to hear what they mean/say like they are actual words being spoken, which is usually very difficult for them to do and doesn’t involve an actual sound. This misconception is the main reason why you will find it very difficult to get anything at all early on; you’re expecting something you aren’t going to be receiving.
So then, now that I’ve beaten what it isn’t into your head, let’s talk about what it is. They communicate by sending a little energy outward towards you with an emotional intent finely tuned to give a specific meaning. Sound familiar? It’s very close to what I had you do when summoning. You can receive this and translate it into words that are a ‘best fit’. Incidentally, the fact you’re translating it is why they may talk in ways you find yourself familiar with. If you live in the south for instance they may seem inclined to speak in a southern way, or curse if you curse. This tends to be because of what you’re used to.
This process is not easy at first, and will take some practice. You need to know some basic energy work along with how telepathy works to receive it in most cases. This is usually fairly easy to achieve with some visualization (think of visualization as a sort of receptive imagination) work that I will describe briefly.
1. Meditate for a bit and relax. Yeah, you have to do that here too.
2. When you reach a state you feel is calm enough, imagine a source of power within your navel area. You can see it as a sunny light, or water, or lava, or anything you feel comfortable with: whatever is most natural to you is the best choice right now. Imagine it spinning around in that area.
3. Take this energy and stream it around your body. Move it to your arms, legs, head, and so on. Do this slowly at first. Make sure you feel the energy moving and staying in the locations you send it to. This simple practice will make you familiar enough with moving the energy within your body. Once you’ve done it a few times feel free to speed the process up.
4. Next, imagine that energy leaving your body slowly and create a field with it. This field doesn’t have to be that large, but it should surround you like an aura. Try and imagine what the energy is feeling in that space around you. It shouldn’t feel much at this stage, but get used to the idea of feeling outside of you. Once comfortable, ask the entity to try and make itself known in the area so you can see if you can feel them. Note what they feel like if you are able to feel anything at all.
5. Finally, if the above steps have gone smoothly, ask them a simple question (asking for a name is my recommendation, so you know what to call them) and see if you can use your ‘energy field’ to feel the energy they send to you. If you can find it, imagine yourself grabbing that energy like it’s a letter and opening it up. Focus on the letter as much as you can, seeing if you can turn the probably blurry postage into words that you then mentally read. If you’re more of an image thinker, or would simply prefer to get an image, then you can also imagine it as a postcard and see the ‘image’ instead of words.
This may take a number of sessions to get down. Don’t be discouraged, it often takes a month or even several for someone new to be able to discern what their lover wants to communicate to them. If you feel frustrated then return to the touch exercises and simpler meditation to work up more confidence and reassure yourself of her presence. You don’t have to worry about them receiving what you’re thinking or saying, they can hear that easily, as those words will always have meaning behind them that they can catch on to. It’s also a demanding process, but as you do it your brain will eventually adjust to it and begin doing it automatically, leading to more natural conversations.
That’s all I’ve got for you today. Next time I’ll talk about some common discussions you have to have with your lover early on, so keep an eye out. Hope you all enjoyed April Fools; it’s the one day in the year you can tell your family and friends you’re dating a spirit without them asking if you need a therapist.
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