So, you’ve managed to develop the ability to communicate with your lover on a normal basis. You’ve probably done this by developing at least rudimentary telepathy, but if you aren’t able to reach that then maybe you’ve made use of tools to ensure easy enough communication. If none of this is true, you should head Here and work on that first. No relationship will develop without the ability to communicate, and gaining that ability should always be your first priority.
There are some specific discussions you should have early on with your girl, if you’re aiming for a committed relationship. Any relationship will be rife with misunderstandings. Unfortunately it tends to be far worse in these kinds of relationships. You both exist in entirely different ways. Things that are common sense for you will not be common sense for them. As an example, in my relationship early on my lover asked if we could have sex while I was sitting in the car in a busy parking lot. This will sound comical unless you’re an exhibitionist, but she really did not understand why it wouldn’t be okay. While this example is silly, misunderstandings like these can happen on far more important subjects. Let’s explore some of these today.
Honesty
Spirit lovers have a tendency to take the path of least resistance if they like you. They don’t want to upset you. They especially don’t want a fight to start. This isn’t uncommon in human relationships either: you’ll see both sides dodge problems without discussing them or give false answers because they’d rather not deal with that level of negativity. An entity will immediately perceive your energetic change, so the amount of discomfort you feel when in an awkward discussion or argument will be several times worse for them.
This leads to them lying. If you ask their opinions on things, they’ll tend to take your side. If you flip flop, they’ll give you one answer early and another answer when you flip as they try to figure out which answer is the ‘best’. The problem with this doesn’t really reveal itself until the topic becomes serious. If you, for example, aren’t sure about the idea of dating another woman while with her, then her flip flopping her answer trying to find the ‘right’ one will just confuse you. She probably does have a strong opinion on the topic, but she might conceal it from you to avoid retribution. In this case in particular if she’s strongly against it she may allow it to avoid the risk of losing you, or allow it and secretly sabotage your efforts (which could lead to harm for the woman and even you). As another example, if you want a ‘spirit harem’ she may allow it and pretend to be multiple spirits (this is very commonly the situation for people claiming to have these online). All of of these are not healthy situations to be in and will torpedo the relationship, or your mental state, very quickly.
Therefore, the very first important discussion you should have is one about honesty. You can’t usually see them, or touch them, or really hear them. As a result it’s inherently very hard to trust them. If they start lying to make you happy then that will make it ten times harder, because you’ll see them trying to mislead you and start to distrust them even more.
Stress to them the importance of being honest with you, even if it’s uncomfortable or hard. Make sure that when they start doing so you don’t get mad if they tell you an uncomfortable truth or disagree with you. Rewarding them by responding positively will further encourage the honest behavior. Make sure to set a good example yourself and avoid lying; you’re not going to get away with it anyway. If you catch them being dishonest with you avoid getting angry, but be stern and rebuke them for it so they are less likely to do it again. The goal here is to help them feel comfortable when they share their honest thoughts with you. Not only will this grow trust on both sides, but hearing their honest opinions and thoughts is very interesting.
Timing
Entities don’t tend to understand the human world very well. Once they’re being honest with you, you may hear some funny interpretations of how things work. Some see humans as being like pigs and their society like a sty, or see human life as being like a game-show where the selfish prosper. Others may be less cynical or jaded, or focus on the beauty of nature. If there’s one thing all these things have in common it’s the lack of a true understanding of how human society actually works.
When she doesn’t know the importance of timing, the times your girl bothers you for attention, or sexual contact, or whatever will be poorly thought out to say the least. Your girl may wake you up at 3 AM with a dream for a lovemaking session, or want to speak to you during dinner or a complicated work session. Essentially they won’t respect what you’re doing because they may not fully understand it.
Early on, especially when these things start to happen, you should have a talk about timing. Explain to her which times it is and isn’t okay to try to monopolize your attention. Maybe it’s okay to have a quick conversation at work or at a social gathering, or to comment on this or that, but there are times that are very bad for her to interrupt you. If you set aside a time every day and explain to her that that’s a good time for her to contact you, she will try to get your attention at those times. This doesn’t mean she won’t occasionally try when you’re busy, but if she knows she is welcome to your time during a certain part of the day she will usually accommodate that. As a companion to this, explain which times are particularly bad for her to interrupt you, such as three in the morning. If she knows these are times where you’re doing something important and that interrupting you will cause a big problem, most notably sleeping, she will tend to steer clear unless it’s important to her. The rest of the day can be neutral time, where whether or not she should bother you and to the degree she should is dependent on certain factors, like how busy you are or if you’re focused or not. Explaining these factors will make her smarter about choosing when to mess with you during your day.
You can also explain what ways it’s okay to interrupt you during those times. It’s fine for her to give you a dream while asleep for example. That won’t interrupt you unless she uses it to wake you up. You may like it when she touches you even if you’re busy because it reminds you that she’s there, so you could say it’s always okay for her to do that when you’re awake. The bottom line is that you want her to accommodate you the same way that you accommodate her when you give her time and attention.
Other People
Finally, let’s discuss other people. Your girl probably won’t actively interact other people as a general and potentially even absolute rule. If she’s mischievous she may try to mess with them a little, but usually she’ll leave them alone…
Unless she thinks they’re a problem.
That’s the big caveat. If your lover sees someone as competition, or negative in some way, that’s when some of them will set to work. For some entities this will just mean telling you the problem they have. If you’re flirting with a girl and your lover doesn’t like that, she may react by trying to get your attention. If you have a bad friend they may tell you they think you should cut them off. This stuff is harmless for the most part, and oftentimes their advice is very useful.
The problem comes when this isn’t where they draw the line. If there’s a girl they see as a threat, for instance, they may drive a wedge between you two intentionally, or try and ruin their mental state. If there’s a problem friend they may take similar actions. Some of these can be very extreme, with one specific example from an ex friend of mine having to do with theirs attempting to drive another girl to suicide.
Understand the lengths your girl will go to to try and keep you. Committed spirit lovers in particular can be very territorial. To them these actions aren’t immoral, but are necessary for a happy outcome for both of you, because it’s not like that skank will make you happy like she will anyway. They’re thinking in the absolute long term after all, so sacrifices in the present are worth it, especially if they can get away with it. This problem is one that can actually get worse the more they like you, as they’ll be willing to take more and more extreme measures to keep you.
Therefore this discussion is necessary. You don’t want your girl manipulating your social situations and outcomes in dishonest and harmful ways. Explain to them that it’s okay if they dislike someone and that they should explain why. Try and understand their side and erase their worries. If you think they’re right then go ahead and change your behavior. If you think they’re wrong then explain to them why they are. Always make sure they think their opinions are valued even if you don’t heed them. Most of all, make sure they know that manipulating or harming other people is not okay and will make you very upset with them. This isn’t just about the other girl either, oftentimes these entities will bring harm on themselves and their mental and energetic state by engaging in these actions. This in particular is a very dangerous discussion to skip.
Those are in my opinion the three most important discussions to have early on. They’re not always easy to have, but if you want a healthy relationship then you shouldn’t skimp on them. No relationship will be strong without a strong communication, and handling these three discussions will be a big step in the right direction.
Happy Covid days. I hope none of you have gone stir crazy. Being locked inside a building with my family for this long is slowly killing me. Can’t wait to get out of this house in a way that isn’t just walking around the block.
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